Can you elaborate on what you mean by "Pros".. OKC is actually a nice alternative to Craigs. Since you have to make a profile, post a photo and answer questions there's a sense of security that I don't think you get with CL.
Might be a false sense but still seems better. Either way, I found someone I hooked up with and found someone I wanted to actually date. Give it a shot! It was m4m, and was okay. We had our fun. Outside of that one instance, I've tried numerous times but CL seriously seems to be more bots than anything these days. As a guy, your best bet is to post your own ad, as very few w4m ads are actually from real women. Non-face pics is a good idea. Once you have your ad written, re-write it with completely different wording.
Then write a third. The important thing is decent spelling and grammar and sounding intelligent, normal and sane. Now post your first ad first thing in the morning.
Wait until the afternoon, then post your second. In the evening, post your third. There's a shit load of ads being posted and you want yours near the top. Every 48 hrs Cl allows you to "renew" the ad and bump it to the top.
I've had a couple of fun encounters from CL, plus my current girlfriend who I've been seeing for 8 months and I'm hopelessly in love with. There's lots of real women reading CE, the trick is to stand out from the crowd.
I did it once. He didn't want to switch from missionary and he didn't try to get me off at all. I hated it and I was mad at myself. What a waste of a good night.
Some of mine have been like that as well! One guy even got us a motel room and busted in 3 minutes and said he was done Experiences like that definitely spoil the fun of it. If you're having no strings attached sex, why not take the opportunity to be really open about what you want? Or were you and he was just really bad? We talked for about a week before meeting up. He was just really bad. He was all about being attentive and then wasn't.
That happened to me as well! We had a whole night planned out with a room and sleep over and all That was definitely one of my most disappointing sexual experiences ever. I have thought about posting my own ad. My friend did that And she says the sex was mind blowing. I guess for the most part it is just hit or miss. In general the sex has actually been a lot better when I responded to ads, but I've had great sex from guys who've responded to me as well.
But like you said it's definitely hit or miss. One time when I made an ad I had a guy marine who responded to me and we got along really well and were super attracted to each other. We had time conflicts traveling so we talked for a month before meeting up in person. Our chemistry was off the fucking wall, we didn't end up having sex but even just fooling around I could tell he would've been great in bed.
He has since deployed and will be gone for 2 years. But that's very difficult to find that type of chemistry so don't rely on craigslist to find an attraction that strong. Although for another example, I made an ad today and I couldn't have sex with the guy today time didn't permit , he drove to my house and I went outside to give him a blowjob in his car.
He was pretty satisfied and hopefully he'll hit me up soon for sex. He was pretty hot and smelled good despite just coming back from the gym LOL. Lots and lots of fake posts but I did get responses from real women, from there I met up with the most attractive one. She had a huge cum fetish and I was really horny at the time so yea It was pretty fun, she basically had me visit her office after hours and then gave me 2 blowjobs and swallowed all my cum while playing with herself to get off.
It was my first time being with someone so enthusiastic about oral and really good at it and my first time being deepthroated or titfucked by a woman with large breasts. Yeah plenty of times, but it's very hit and miss.
Most of the guys I've met were kinda meh, but three guys in particular were amazing. All were marines and really great fucks. You're definitely going to meet some sketchy people on there, so use protection even if they say they're clean. Also very dishonest people as well, one of the guys I was with was married with a newborn and I have no idea how he got "permission" to stay the night in a hotel with me.
Also you'll encounter a lot of fake people on there who will lead you on and flake on you. If anything ask for their kik and ask them to take pictures on the Camera app, so you know they're not using fake photos. Or use an app like Skout or Tinder. For a male i found it to be all pro's or scams.
I posted an ad for NSA sex. I received over replies. Most were just cock pics, with a message that read, "hey, baby" and that was the extent of the communication.
Only about 10 of them complied with my request to put their favorite drink in the subject line. One hour after I posted I had received one death threat and three different messages calling me names for not responding. I chose a guy who wrote a real message.
There was punctuation in it! My hope had been to find a hook-up for that weekend, but after many creepy messages, I slowed down. I chose a guy who had made me laugh. We talked for about a week everyday and then met for coffee. He was hot and funny and it was on! We would meet up randomly, whenever we could manage. Mediocre conversation, but I wasn't shopping for conversation. As a female, it was a bit scary. A lesson in caution, I think. I have since searched a couple of times on Craigslist for NSA sex.
Once I was stood up by the same guy three times. The other time was much like my first experience: For women it's really easy. You have a shit ton of guys send you responses Sometimes I have the same really ugly dudes try to respond to my ad at different times and it's kind of infuriating.
Some also will just do it for the sake of trolling if you post your ad with photos or have too many specific requirements. I didn't believe the latter part at first but after having people reply to my e-mails and tell me I'm "fake" or a "whore" or "flagging just for laughs", it happens a lot more.
It's pretty discouraging for real women who want to use craigslist. Also forgot to mention about another guy who I met who was an incredible find on craigslist. I was working in Hong Kong and this guy was an Australian expat who was a few years older than me.
We both met with no expectations of anything happening and we got along very well throughout our drinks so we ended up back at his place and had a very hot and passionate night of incredible sex. He was cute and average, but man was he great at sex! I'm a girl, started to post ads on CL a couple of month back new year, new adventures yea? Did not know what got into me and did not know where I found the courage to post such thing. Was brought up and hang out within a semi-conservative community, so essentially casual hook up is frowned upon.
Men sought women, women sought men, multiple men sought men, couples sought women and all other permutations one could calculate. It was an underbelly of sorts, but a beloved one. Where else could a woman decide she might like to engage in some light bondage at 2 a. Even as technology advanced and others moved on to Tinder and other apps, I remained loyal to Craigslist, preferring the anonymity of the platform as well as the democratic base of people attracted by the free, low-commitment interface.
The message users receive if they attempt to click on any of the personals sections reads:. I was capable of losing a whole day to the section, refreshing my email inbox and responding in a trancelike state. The section enabled my addictive personality, allowing me to too easily engage in behaviors that became unhealthy for me.
I found myself in dangerous situations that sometimes had consequences. In my 20s, I went through extensive therapy for sexual trauma and addiction, during which I had an extensive system of passwords and blocks set up to keep me off the section. It just got a little bit harder to engage in risky behavior around anonymous sex, which for me personally may ultimately be a good thing. And yet, something is lost..