Though you don't have to be rude to or ignore other women, you should have a laser-sharp focus on your girlfriend so she knows that you will always be there for her, especially after you start having sex. Spend lots of time with her. Make sure that you plan at least one or two dates every week and that you check in with her at least once a day if you're not together. There's a difference between being loyal and being possessive and smothering your girlfriend with affection.
You should not only show your girl that you're loyal by being loyal to her, but by showing that you're a loyal sibling, friend, and teammate. Show loyalty in many aspects of your life and your girl will be impressed. Treat her like a lady. If you want your girlfriend to have sex with you, then you should treat her like a lady, not just like someone you want to hook up with.
To do this, you have to be a gentleman and be courteous, kind, understanding, and generally admirable. Open doors for her, give her your coat when she's cold, pull out chairs for her, and help her carry her heavy bags. Make sure to compliment her to let her know how great she looks or how special she is.
It's important to be a gentleman, but don't do anything that feels too unnatural to you, or she'll be able to tell that you're not being yourself. This may sound silly, but if you want your girlfriend to really feel special, then you shouldn't invite her to hang out at your place if it looks like the set for World War Z. You need to make sure to remove any dirty laundry off your floor, clean your counters, and make your bed look and smell as clean and inviting as possible.
Not only will this make your lady feel special, but it'll make her feel more inclined to have sex with you. She won't want to get it on if your bed is covered in candy wrappers and dirty underwear.
If you drive her around a lot, you should also keep a clean car. Give your lady the respect she deserves by making sure she has a clean seat. Show an interest in all of her; not just her body. Your girl's biggest fear may be that you don't care at all about her mind because you're too busy obsessing over her body.
So, you have to prove her wrong. Show her that you are about who she is as a person, about her hopes and dreams, and about what makes her tick. Ask her about her friendships, her childhood, and her favorite experiences. Show her that you value her opinion. Ask her what she thinks about the current political situation in your state, or about the look of your new outfit.
Make eye contact when you talk to her. Show her that everything she says is important to you. Take her out on romantic dates. If you want to build the sexual tension, you have to build the romance first. Make her feel special by taking her out, dressing up, and picking a romantic spot for dinner, a drink, or even just for stargazing. You don't have to do anything corny or out of your element to make her feel special.
Though you and your lady can have fun at baseball games, birthday parties, or at a loud, sweaty concert, these events will be less conducive to lovemaking.
Doing something romantic once in a while will show your lady that she really matters to you. Be attentive to her needs. If you're not attentive to your lady's everyday needs, then how will you be attentive in the bedroom? Your girl needs to feel like you know when she's sad, nervous, anxious, or even just cold or hungry.
Pay attention to her eyes, her body language, and her words to know if there's something bothering her. If you act completely oblivious when she's obviously upset about something, then she'll think you're not really paying attention to her.
If something's wrong, don't be afraid to ask her what's up. This will only show that you care. Make sure she's ready to have sex. If you really want to treat your lady well, then you have to be able to have an idea about whether or not she's ready for sex.
If you're her first boyfriend, if she's sexually inexperienced, or if she's deeply religious or has other moral convictions that make her steadfast about not having sex, then you should back off and wait for her to trust you enough to even consider having sex with you. But here are some ways to know if she does want to have sex with you: If things have been getting hot and heavy in the hook up department, then she may be ready to move forward. If she's been talking about sex, giving you sexual compliments, and touching you a lot more, then she may be ready for sex.
If she's been hinting that she wants to sleep over, spends a lot of time in or near your bed, or invites you over late at night, then she may be ready for more intimacy. If she has deep moral or religious convictions that make her not want to have sex, don't try to force it. Accept that some girls will never have sex until they're married and that there's nothing you can do to change their mind.
If you plan on trying to have sex, or even talking about having sex with your girl, then you should be prepared with some condoms in case the mood strikes her. This doesn't mean that you should flash the condoms or make her feel uncomfortable, but it does mean that you should have some backup just in case things do go in a favorable direction.
If she wants to have sex and you have to run out to the drugstore for some condoms, this may make your first sexual experience fall flat. If you want your girl to have sex with you, then you have to set the mood. You should start the evening by doing something romantic to soften her up. Then, go back to your clean apartment, which should be stocked with red wine, grapes, chocolate, and some light jazz on the radio.
Light the candles and turn the radio on to get her in a romantic mindset, and offer her something to eat or drink. If this feels corny, you should only do what makes you both get in the mood. If you just want to dim the lights instead of lighting candles, then that's fine too. If you want your girl to have sex with you, then you have to be a master kisser.
Even if you've been kissing for a while, you should still know how to kiss her in a variety of ways and make your kisses feel fresh. Don't overwhelm her and grope her the second you lock lips.
Instead, take it slow, grazing your lips as you touch her hair or stroke her face. Take breaks from kissing so she has time to come up for air and want you even more. You are not very likely to have sex with your girlfriend if all you've done is kiss. It takes a bit longer for things to reach a natural progression. Play hard to get. If you really want to make your girlfriend want you, then you shouldn't act like a sexual beast, moving rapidly from kissing to touching, to ripping off your clothes and practically levitating into the bedroom.
Instead, you should kiss your girlfriend for a few seconds, then hold back, stroke her, and talk to her. Repeat this move a few times and wait for her to go wild. Because this will make your girlfriend feel like you like her, but that you're in control of your desires and aren't desperate to get your hands all over her -- even if you are.
This move will make her want to be the one who asks for more. What she wants in a kiss: Let your mouth wander as she allows, but pay attention to her responses. Light strokes on cheeks, neck, and back get extra points, as these areas are usually ignored at least initially. At the beginning, a light caress is definitely recommended, and should give way to a harder touch and grip as kissing continues. Start slowly, and stay slow enough to watch for signs that encourage more rapid movement and advances.
Kiss her lips, cheeks, eyelids, and neck slowly until she makes it clear she can't handle another second without Kiss her against the wall, kiss her leaning across the front seat of the car, kiss her in the shower And — be sure to kiss something besides her mouth: Slowly and sensually will unlock her passion. And there they are: Are they one of those amazing people and the connection is just so REAL, or is something more diabolical waiting for you just below the surface?
Here's how you can tell Some relationships are harder to get over than others. This is why you can't move on The subtle changes that can take place, changes women are usually unaware of until it's too late. What do women want in the bedroom? And I want to see him want me. It drives me crazy. Anticipation and appreciation go a long way. We don't have to have full penetration, but getting close works great. I've started going out without panties on so he can start things wherever we are.
To the guy who thinks his girl "wouldn't be like that": Yes, your girl, too. Let her take control. Not every time, but sometimes. And I don't want to hurt him; I just want to do things to him. Things that please him, but also things that let him know he is not in control; I am.
Role-play "I love when he dresses up in his old Navy uniform. I didn't know him then, so it makes things different, and men-in-uniform really turn me on. When I wear stockings and heels, he loses his mind. Variety of motion and movement. And other times I want it fast, hard, deep, and with aggression!
It accesses all of me, and the top of his pelvis brushes my clit on the upward motion. I want him to stay touching and feeling me as he is inside me. Make it all about her. I'm not difficult, but that he wants it so bad is awesome! He is patient and takes his time.
Go down… now and always. Then he can pretty much have his way with me. If I let him, he is really 'in' with me. That he wants to taste me is such a turn-on. I have to go lol" —Consuela H.
What else is there to say? I want to feel him want me. Put me against the wall and pull my clothes off. I want my hands pinned back with him taking me. I want to know he has control. And it begins outside the bedroom.
We walk in the bedroom, and he expects me to just flip on my back, automatically be wet, and ready for him to start thrusting. You are just a click away from finding the love you want and deserve I want to feel him love me and want me.
He needs to let me know he's into me. Kiss the inside of my thighs! I'm not one for PDAs, but to show everyone that he cares is really special. To build a great relationship that truly lasts, there are some rules that need to be followed